It's Like That

When I reached my hometown last Chinese New Year, there are some bad news that they had let me know. I don't want to talk about the others, I just want to tell about one of my most respect, admire and concern teacher. But, I don't mention his name over here. He is a good teacher, of course, kind, generous, care on students and a lot of good personalities. He always talk about life to us, facts, generals issues and religious. He always willing to help when people in trouble. Indeed, he is really kind. But, something unfortunate happened to him. His wife had been run away from home. As I know was because of she had been hex ( I don't sure is this word or not, in hokkien is "Gong Tao"(降頭) ) by a sorcerer ( or wizard, or in Malays is "bomoh" or in Chinese is "神崑" ) and she had followed this sorcerer and leave my teacher with both of his sons. One of his son is just about 2 years old and another is 7 years old.

My friends and I had paid a visit to him during new year. He talked about this to us. He said that he always be a counselor to his friends on their relationship with their life mates.
"But, what had happed now is I, myself, lost my life mate while my friends live happily with each others."
"VERY SILLY."
We all very sympathy to him.
He said that this also was his false, because he didn't noticed early. When he started felt that something had wrong with her and he tracked her. He had saw somethings that he not suppose to see. He later found out that under her pillow had a doll( something like the doll that people used to curse others. ) and some others things that believe had caused their relationship turn worse (in a superstitious view which is quite well-known in Chinese society over here).

"When I realize this, everything was too late, too late for me to solve it. There are nothings that I can do now. So, I let go, let her go. "
His friends advise him to remarriage, so that can help to take care of his children. He don't want, because he don't want to get hurt a second time.

I wonder why. Why people like him who are kind tend to have a lot of unfortunate and difficulties in life? Whereas people who are bad like those who are crime, sell drugs, do illegal business, and many others, tend to have a happy life. They live with luxuries and many lucky things happened to them. They are very wealth and become more wealth again.

There's only unfair in this world. But why the word "fair" still exist? Perhaps those who create this word or the people hope that this word will exist and there will be fair around the world. But, this word will not appear in my own dictionary. Of course there are reasons behind it.

Some people said that this is because of FATE. But why this fate happen to some people but not some others ? Why fate are different? Why people must suffer with fate? Who decide our fates? Who had the will to do it? Why we can't decide it ourselves? Some people said that our lives is depend on our hands. But there are somethings that we don't aspect it to happen but it still happen. Some people said this is because God had arranged for it. Well, if this is the case , I don't know what I need to say, but I think I will accept it even though God are invisible, even though it's really unfair.I believe He exist.

Moreover, in Buddhism, said that certain things happen because there is a cause and there must be a result(因果). Yes, this is most of the cases. But, still somethings that can be explain. The word "transmigration"(輪迴)(of the soul) and "previous life" and "present life" is appear and explain that somethings that happened in the life before ones' death and the cause doesn't had a result yet, then it will result in present life that we live now. Well, I think this is a quite good explanation too and I accept it. This is due to in religious, there is somethings that sciences or facts can't explain it or even demonstrate it. Well, in conclusion, I don't know how to overcome it and even do anythings for it. It's beyond my control, other than I accept it. It's like that.